about my weight especially. i try to exercise and diet but the moment anyone comments about me i feel depressed and i start eating junk food. how can i change this thing about myself.
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Hon, you are a 16 year old girl, and that is the hardest time for a girl. At that age, you are very self-conscious plus the other kids can be cruel and careless of your feelings. I can tell you to try to ignore them, but you won't because you are 16 and this is the time when you listen to all that garbage and take it to heart. There is hope! In a couple of years or maybe less, you will start to look and live more for what is outside of yourself, and then cruel words will begin to lose their power over you.In the meantime, you could try looking outside yourself right now by volunteering to help those less fortunate than yourself. For instance, you could work with children with special needs, or volunteer at a local hospital in the pediatric ward, or volunteer at a nursing home to read to old folks, or play cards with them or something like that. Perhaps you could even work at an animal shelter, cleaning the cages, or runs.Any activity in which you can see that there are people or animals whose lives are harder than yours, and yet they soldier on, living with the most quality they can, will show you how to go outside yourself and how to count your blessings. In this way you will be happier for what you have and less unhappy for what you feel is wrong with you.Good luck, and be patient. One day you will be a beautiful young woman without arrogance and with a kind heart, and all this sadness will be worth it.
its hormones honey! i have to take medication for my depression it really helps maybe talk to ur mom or a dr
It sounds like depression. I was diagnosed with it when I was 13 and then I was found to be borderline bi-polar. I had the same problems. People will tell you its because your a teenager. I gained 100LBS during the time it took them to figure out what was wrong with me. So go to the doctor and get them to figure it out now
Tell yourself today that today is the MOST you will ever weigh. Start tomorrow. Every time you reach for junk food, stop and think. If you do not get this under control, you will only gain more weight. Your mood swings may be due to high and low blood sugar by eating all this junk food. Go for a walk, get exercise, eat smaller portions, and quit eating junk. Imagine the surprise when you go back to school having lost the extra pounds? You will be so happy.
well i am going to tell you that u have low self esteem and when you work on your self esteem, trust me your mood swings will be gone and do not care what people say about you because people will be people and they will always talk.
Maybe u should try a sport become a little more competitive, then if someone says something you'll have something to brag a bout.
sounds pretty normal for a 16 year old girl...
Food and feelings can get really mixed up and confused. It sounds like you're having a tough time and that you get comfort from eating junk food. If you feel hurt you need to talk to someone about it. Food doesn't take away that pain it just fixes it temporarily whilst not addressing the cause. So eating junk food will not look at the problem. It sounds like you need to talk to a therapist or a counsellor. If it s causing you emotional pain, go to a person who knows how to deal with emotions.. You can talk to a Dr. who can refer you to someone and this of course remains private, even from your parents if you choose. Good luck, have courage and see this through because if you can deal with it now you will have lots of years free from feeling so bad. x
You are still growing, and so is your brain; it has been scientifically shown that these 'mood swings" and outbursts of emotion in the teenage years are related to brain growth, so you will simply have to endure, and realize that it is "a stage" you are going through" at this time, and you WILL outgrow it.. As for your sensitivity, well, that is something you will have to learn to cope with; you must realize: NOBODY escapes being criticized and ridiculed by others. People are also extraordinarily mean and cruel these days to a frightening degree, and the media contributes to this attitude. You must learn to "consider the source" and PRACTICE "not reacting" to insult, since the greater part of it is simple meanness on their part and has nothing to do with who you really are. I was in the entertainment business for many years, and I realized that many of the mean things people said to me were because THEY had the problem, not because there was anything wrong with me; these people didn't even know me! If you allow every stupid or nasty comment that comes your way to affect your self-image for the worse, and poison your happiness, you are going to be more miserable than you can possibly imagine! If you learn to DISCRIMINATE and DISREGARD worthless opinions, i.e. those of people you neither know nor respect, you will have MUCH LESS misery to contend with. This is done one day at a time. Eventually you will find yourself developing a 'thick skin" and becoming unbothered by such things, and can focus on accomplishing your goals. Why not take up some form of dance? It's a BLAST, and you get exercise and have FUN at the same time, as well as acquiring grace, discipline, and strength!
Well it's easier said than done but remember those fools who make hurtful comments are trying to make themselves feel "big" by putting others down. Imagine thinking the only way to feel better was to pick on others! Feel some compassion for them but blow off their comments. They mean nothing!
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